IN-PERSON COUNSELLING IN VANCOUVER & ONLINE ACROSS BC
Trauma Counselling
Imagine letting the past guide you, not define you.
Healing is so much more than managing your emotions.
You're exhausted, and something keeps feeling off — whether it's the persistent sadness that keeps showing up time and again, or just a sense of perpetually being on edge. You don't remember the last time you really got to relax; it's hard to let your guard down when it's so hard to be around others — you never know whether your partner really means it when they say they care about you. And whenever you think about how others feel about you, you spiral. You want to break out of your habit of overthinking, but the impulse to manage your relationships always come back and find you.
Now you're too drained to know how to move forward. You find it hard to open up and talk about what you're going through. Maybe no one will 'get it,' or even know how to help you. Maybe you've done therapy before, or have tried medication, but still find yourself trapped in the same pattern.
You're craving something deeper, not the surface-level coping strategies you've already learned, but for someone to help you figure out exactly what you need to move forward. You've pushed yourself hard to get to where you are, and you're ready to take move forward.
therapy to help you get through and beyond the heart of the matter
You might be here because of
Chronic feelings of fear and stress that can’t be eased
Perfectionism that fools you into thinking that safety is somehow attainable
Chronic exhaustion and burnout from always holding it together
Chronic pain and health issues that doctors can’t effectively treat or explain
Emotional numbness or difficulty feeling anything
Difficulty trusting others, constantly on guard in relationships
Never feel like you are good enough, no matter what you do
Emotional flashbacks, or sudden waves of body feelings without clear memories
Unresolved cycles of people-pleasing, anger, anxiety, and shame
Unresolved trauma can come in many forms. You might feel “fine” and tell yourself it wasn’t that bad, but your nervous system doesn’t fully relax.
Naming your symptoms as trauma isn’t an exaggeration. It’s about understanding your experiences and making sense of why your efforts haven’t given you the relief you deserve.
No matter where you are right now, we can work with that.
You've already done more than the fair share of getting through difficult moments, so your therapy needs to go beyond the surface. Our work here isn’t about labelling what went wrong, it’s about understanding who you are and what you truly value, and giving voice to the words you’ve never had the chance to speak out loud. Getting familiar with a sense of calm and safety helps to ease our way into deeper work, and every step of this process will be at your pace.
We start with providing you with a place of comfort, where you can feel a sense of trust and safety, so that you can really get to know your internal landscape. You won’t ever have to feel rushed, or “behind” — the process won’t always feel like a straight line, but you will move forward, because trauma therapy is tailored specifically for what you need.
I work with gentle, evidence-based, and effective interventions, including Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy(AEDP) and Emotionally Focused therapy(EFT), so I can help you where talk therapy often gets stuck. Insight alone doesn't give your body the reassurance it needs, not because you weren't trying hard enough. Somatic approaches can help you, without forcing you to recall your worst moments.
Change starts when your body can feel and really take in the safety you've always needed.
Healing is possible
and it can start today
frequently asked questions
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Trauma isn’t a competition. If something you experienced is still affecting you today, then it matters. And you don’t need to justify your experiences were “bad enough” to deserve the help you need. Even if you’ve never thought of your experiences as trauma, it may still be helpful to explore whether past patterns are still shaping the way you think, feel, and relate to others without your conscious knowing.
Trauma therapy isn’t about bringing the past for its own sake, it’s about recognizing how your nervous system learned to adapt and survive in past environments and relationships, and helping it learn to fully embrace the present. Healing doesn’t mean reliving painful experiences, it means letting your brain and body recognize the past no longer need to affect your present day experiences, so you can continue to move forward with freedom and clarity.
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Many clients come to me after they’ve already tried talk therapy and have a good idea of why they feel the way they do. Having understanding helps, but when trauma continues to exist in your nervous system, old patterns tend to persist.
I use gentle, evidence-based methods of healing, including Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) so that your brain and body can fully integrate past experiences and create the safety you need to move forward with freedom and clarity.
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No. You don’t have to if you don’t want to. With somatic healing approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), you don’t have to go into detail about what happened for counselling to be effective. You’re in control of how much you want to share as we reprocess your experiences.
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No. There’s no need to relive your pain in order to heal. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) are gentle and effective ways of healing. I’ll make sure that you stay grounded, calm, and comfortable throughout the process, helping you go at a pace that feels safe. Processing painful experiences shouldn’t be retraumatizing, and you will always have control over where you want to go in session.
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community if I talk about what happened?
Clients from small and interconnected communities often have to navigate this additionally complex and personal concern. As part of the healing process, we can discuss ways to honour your experiences and relationships while creating space for your healing.
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Part of our work might look like regular talk therapy. Trauma therapy still requires that we get to know some of your history and present experiences to connect the dots and establish why you’re feeling the way you do. More insight creates more opportunities for healing, and talk therapy can allow us to explore patterns that you may not have noticed yet.
At other times, we’ll use somatic approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), to help your brain and body get past what feels stuck.
As a general rule, I help with whatever you feel is the most important, whether that looks like insight or somatic work, I’m happy to collaborate.
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Click here to schedule a free consultation with me. During the consultation, we can discuss the kind of help you are looking for and see if we will be a good fit going forward.
A consultation isn’t commitment, it’s a chance for you ask me questions and to get a sense if I’m the right person for you. My goal is to give you a sense of clarity, relief, and the confidence that healing is possible.
If you choose to work with me, your sessions are personalized, and you can work on a weekly or bi-weekly basis, whichever feels the best for you.
Counselling With Wren
Specialized counselling services for anxiety & depression, neurodivergence, and trauma, available in-person in Vancouver and online across BC.
As an uninvited guest on stolen, ancestral territories of the xʷməθkwəy̓əm (Musqueam), Skwxwú7mesh (Squamish), S’ólh Téméxw (Stó:lō), Səl̓ílwətaʔ/Selilwitulh (Tsleil-Waututh), I commit myself to the continued work of assessing and responding to the ongoing impact of colonization.